Welcome to The Archive — below are a growing collection of thoughts, tools, and stories for men navigating life after loss, transition, or simply a deep desire for change.
These posts are honest, grounded, and practical — from personal reflections on grief, to actionable tools for mindset, health, purpose, and rebuilding a meaningful life.
Whether you're in the thick of something heavy or just searching for direction, this is a space to read, reflect, and reconnect with who you're becoming.
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Loneliness vs Solitude: Learning the Difference Through Loss
When I lost my wife, Lani, I was hit with a deep loneliness — but over time, I discovered something different hidden in the quiet: solitude. This piece is about learning to sit with the silence, and finding strength in it.
7 Things I Did After Reading The Comfort Crisis, And Why They Changed Me
After losing Lani, I didn’t go looking for comfort. I had enough of that. I needed clarity. Challenge.
Something to shake me out of the autopilot I’d been surviving in. Reading The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter gave me the nudge to lean into discomfort on purpose. Not recklessly, but intentionally — with curiosity and commitment.
These are 7 changes I made after reading the book.
Will I Ever Feel Happy Again After Grief?
After losing someone, the idea of happiness can feel impossible. But grief doesn’t mean life stops.
In this post, I share how I begun to find joy again — not by “moving on,” but by asking better questions, building new habits, and honouring what was lost with how I chooses to live.