Welcome to The Archive — below are a growing collection of thoughts, tools, and stories for men navigating life after loss, transition, or simply a deep desire for change.
These posts are honest, grounded, and practical — from personal reflections on grief, to actionable tools for mindset, health, purpose, and rebuilding a meaningful life.
Whether you're in the thick of something heavy or just searching for direction, this is a space to read, reflect, and reconnect with who you're becoming.
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Change It: The Mental Shift That’s Helping Me Through Grief
In grief, our minds often spiral into questions with no answers. “Why did this happen?” “Why her?”
I found myself trapped in that loop — until I started using a simple tool that helped me shift. In this piece, I share how saying “Change it” out loud became a powerful reminder to catch negative thinking and replace it with empowering questions that honour Lani and help me move forward.
6 Things That Helped Me Through the First 6 Weeks After Loss
In the six weeks since losing my wife Lani to cancer, I’ve found myself faced with a choice: let grief pull me under, or meet it head-on with intention.
I chose to move. To eat well. To cry when I needed to. To honour her by living with strength.
These are six things I’ve done daily that helped me hold on to who I am — and slowly, begin to rebuild.