When you're grieving the loss of a future you thought you’d have, imagining a new one can feel impossible. But it’s also an opportunity—one rooted in strength, intention and creation. In this article, I share how visualisation, meditation, and the teachings of Dr Joe Dispenza helped me start reshaping my future with purpose and clarity.

When I lost my wife, Lani, I was hit with a deep loneliness — but over time, I discovered something different hidden in the quiet: solitude. This piece is about learning to sit with the silence, and finding strength in it.

After losing Lani, I didn’t go looking for comfort. I had enough of that. I needed clarity. Challenge.

Something to shake me out of the autopilot I’d been surviving in. Reading The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter gave me the nudge to lean into discomfort on purpose. Not recklessly, but intentionally — with curiosity and commitment.

These are 7 changes I made after reading the book.

After losing someone, the idea of happiness can feel impossible. But grief doesn’t mean life stops.

In this post, I share how I begun to find joy again — not by “moving on,” but by asking better questions, building new habits, and honouring what was lost with how I chooses to live.

In grief, our minds often spiral into questions with no answers. “Why did this happen?” “Why her?”

I found myself trapped in that loop — until I started using a simple tool that helped me shift. In this piece, I share how saying “Change it” out loud became a powerful reminder to catch negative thinking and replace it with empowering questions that honour Lani and help me move forward.

In the six weeks since losing my wife Lani to cancer, I’ve found myself faced with a choice: let grief pull me under, or meet it head-on with intention.

I chose to move. To eat well. To cry when I needed to. To honour her by living with strength.

These are six things I’ve done daily that helped me hold on to who I am — and slowly, begin to rebuild.